6 Secrets we use to stay crazy in love 😍✨ (After 6 years & 2 kids)

Tomorrow marks 6 years of Christopher and me being together… and honestly, I’ve been in full reflection mode.

When we met, I was 24 and he was 23. And now he’s about to turn 30 next month… which is kind of crazy to think about. We’ve spent most of our twenties growing up side by side.

And in those 6 years? I’ve learned a lot. About myself. About love. About what it actually takes to not just stay together, but to stay deeply in love.

A while ago, I worked in a nursing home, and one question always stuck with me:
“What’s the key to a successful marriage?”

Everyone had a different answer.

But after everything we’ve been through, I realized we’ve created our own version of that answer.

These are the 6 things that don’t just keep us together… they keep us passionate, connected, and honestly? Still a little obsessed with each other.

1. Intimacy is non-negotiable

Christopher and I prioritize intimacy. And I don’t just mean physically, I mean emotionally too.

Yes, we’re very intentional about our physical connection (right now, we’re basically doing it every other day 😏), but what matters just as much are the conversations we have.

I love those moments when the kids are finally asleep and we can just sit down and talk. Not about logistics, not about the kids but about him. His thoughts, his inner world, what’s going on in his mind.

That’s where real connection happens.

And look.. with two kids? having sex is not always convenient. It’s not always perfectly planned.

Sometimes it’s late at night. Sometimes it’s in the middle of the night when we’re both awake anyway. Sometimes it’s during a random nap in the middle of the day.

But we make it happen. Because that connection? That’s everything.

2. We laugh… like, all the time

If there’s one thing we’re really good at, it’s laughing.

But funny enough at the beginning, we did not understand each other’s humor at all.

My humor is dry, a little raw, sometimes deep and slightly inappropriate at the wrong moments. I’ll say the thing everyone is thinking and then laugh about it.

Christopher? Way more light, surface-level, easygoing humor.

So yeah… that took some adjusting 😂

But from day one, we always found something to laugh about together. And over time, we started to understand each other more and even adopt each other’s humor.

Now? We literally laugh our way through parenting, stress, chaos.. everything.

And honestly, it’s one of the biggest reasons things feel easy between us.

Because when you can laugh together, you can get through anything.

3. Quality time is a priority, not a luxury

We don’t wait for time to magically appear. We create it.

Even in the middle of busy schedules and kids, we make sure there are moments that are just ours.

Sometimes it’s simple, watching a movie together after the kids are asleep and actually talking about it after. Cooking together. Being present.

And sometimes, we go all in.

A few months ago, we went to Barcelona for two days while the kids stayed with grandma. And I swear—we felt like we were 20 again.

Riding electric bikes through the city at night to watch fireworks. Eating tapas after. Taking the metro and buses instead of a taxi just because… why not? No kids, no pressure, just vibes.

Or even something small like a comedy show we went to two weeks ago. It had been on our list forever. We laughed so hard, grabbed dessert after, and then went right back home because yes, real life still continues and the baby still wakes up early 😅

But those moments? They’re everything.

Because they remind us that before we were parents… we were us.

4. We stay genuinely curious about each other

One thing we’ve never stopped doing is asking questions.

Because the truth is you never fully “figure someone out.” People change. Every single day.

We both go through our own experiences, thoughts, and emotions and we make a real effort to stay curious about that.

“How was your day really?”
“What’s been on your mind lately?”
“What are you thinking about these days?”

And that opens the door to conversations we never would’ve had otherwise.

Now, I’m not going to pretend I find everything he says fascinating 😂

Christopher can go deep into conspiracy theories, and I’m just like… yeah, that’s not my thing.

But I am interested in how his mind works.

I’ve learned that I don’t have to agree with everything.
but I do want to understand him.

And that mindset alone has taken our communication to a completely different level.

5. We give each other space to grow

If you had told me 6 years ago who we would both become… I wouldn’t have believed you.

We’ve changed so much.

Christopher went from being a taxi driver, to a corporate job, to working as a coffee operator, to now being a freelancer, running his own web design business, doing side jobs, and even getting into trading.

And me? I’ve gone from hospitality freelancer to insurance agent, to working in healthcare, to building my own business.

And that’s just the surface.

We are not the same people we were when we met. Not even close.

But instead of that pulling us apart, we’ve allowed it to bring us closer.

We’ve learned to accept that growth is part of life. That your mindset changes. Your needs change. Your goals evolve.

And instead of resisting that… we support it.

Because real love doesn’t expect you to stay the same.
It gives you the space to become who you’re meant to be.

6. We choose each other, without losing ourselves

This one is everything.

I am me. Christopher is Christopher.

We are two completely different individuals who choose to be together, not because we need to, but because we genuinely want to.

We both have our own interests, our own goals, our own ways of thinking, and we respect that.

We give each other space. We support each other fully.

Because the truth is.. our relationship doesn’t work in spite of our individuality…

It works because of it.

At the end of the day, we don’t stay together out of habit.

We stay because we still like each other.
We’re still curious about each other.
And honestly? Life is just better together.